6 Tips to Set Up Your Child For Success

6 Tips to Set Up Your Child For Success

Posted by : Blyton Pinto | Catholic Life, Parenting, Self Development

Every parent does their best to ensure their child has a solid foundation on which he or she can build a successful life. But sometimes a few basic truths are often overlooked by many parents. In this article, I share a totally different perspective of success and how to set up your child for it

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Life is a rat race for many.  Kids are growing up looking at their parents caught up in this race, hurtling at breakneck speeds towards the finishing line. But what's the prize at the end? What is the finishing line? After we have finished running our race, what will our kids be racing for? Who will win? What is "victory"?

Millions of articles are available on the Internet that gives you valuable information on how to set up your child for success. Here are a few more to add to the list. 

Prepare Your Kids For Life, Not Just For University

The biggest race in the world starts from pre-kindergarten and goes up all the way, to landing a job and even after. To get a good job in a good company, it is very important to have a great education. Many of us believe that education is only about getting a good job and climbing up the ladder.

No doubt there is a lot of truth in it and it is essential that we prepare our kids for this race but that’s not all. Life is much more than a great formal education or a well-paying job.

It’s equally about teaching our kids how to - be kind, humble, grateful, courageous, build integrity and character, empathize with others, not just sympathize, be on time, give back to the community,  be honest, develop a total trust in God, care for nature, civic sense, value & purpose of money, responsibilities that come with being financially rich, stand on their own feet & think for themselves and much more……….

Romans 12:2
“Do not model your behavior on the contemporary world, but let the renewing of your minds transform you, so that you may discern for yourselves what is the will of God – what is good and acceptable and mature”

 

A Christian Parent Must Teach the Christian Meaning of Success

I have noticed a common thread in all the funerals I’ve been to. Whoever the deceased person was or whatever success he or she achieved, the eulogy never gave the highest emphasis to statements like “Oh, she was a Topper in University OR he became a Manager at a very young age OR she successfully made huge profits in her business”.

But the emotional and nostalgic emphasis is always on “What a wonderful dad he was OR she touched the lives of many with her kindness and generosity OR he selflessly worked for the sick and the dying”

It’s a fact that you will be forgotten at some point in time after your death, but at least let there be a few “success stories” about you. And pass this on to your kids too.

Matthew 16:26
“What, then, will anyone gain by winning the whole world but forfeiting his soul? Or what can anyone offer in exchange for his soul?”

 

Encourage Your Children To Step Out of Their Comfort Zones

Pandora Poikilos - Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out.
“We are so accustomed to the comforts of “I cannot”, “I do not want to” and “it is too difficult” that we forget to realize when we stop doing things for ourselves and expect others to dance around us. We are not achieving greatness. We have made ourselves weak.”

Staying in your comfort zone is like being a frog in a pot of cold water that is slowly heating up on a stove. Ultimately, it will kill you. You will not even know. Do you want this to happen to your kids?

 

Create Possibilities For Them to Be Competitive

Once in a while, at least make an attempt to create possibilities for them to be competitive, in a healthy manner. Enroll them either in music or art or sport, something away from their daily school and homework routine. Through these activities, they will learn many life skills like making conversation, dealing with success & failure, building self-esteem & confidence, making decisions and learning to be independent

Not just that, even the nerve circuits in their brains, which is useful for their growth, grow well when the mind and body indulge in these activities. Not to leave out hand-eye coordination.

 

Help Them Stand on Their Own Feet

Kids usually have to do many projects during their early school life. Sadly, parents end up doing it, especially creative/innovative and building projects. I can understand, the parent’s motive, but this really snuffs out your child.

Let the work be theirs, not yours. Teach them it's ok not to be first or the best but it is more important that the work should be theirs. Of course, help them, but don’t hijack the work. Undoubtedly, their work will be mediocre compared to the other’s (because for the other kids, their parents would have done it), but you will see the sense of joy, achievement, and confidence in your child’s eyes. Don’t forget to prepare them for failure when the projects are judged in class. But what matters most to your kid, is what YOU think of him or her.

Don't underestimate the positive benefits of making your kids do household chores. It develops self-reliance and teaches them the dignity of labor.

 

Finally, Prepare Them For Heaven, Not Just The Grave

Our earthly life could be maximum 100 years but life after, is billions and billions and zillions of years. No end. So what is the wise thing to do? Live for these 100 years alone or prepare for eternity too? Where do you or your kids want to be, after we pass away from here?

Revelations 3: 4
“There are a few in Sardis; it is true, who have kept their robes unstained, and they are fit to come with me, dressed in white. Anyone who proves victorious will be dressed, like these, in white robes; I shall not blot that name out of the book of life, but acknowledge it in the presence of my Father and His angels”

You are free to choose which race to run and what victory to aim for

If this article has set you thinking or you know of someone else who may like it, I’d appreciate a share.

Blyton.

 

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