Posted by : Blyton Pinto | Parenting
Don’t we all want our loved ones to feel safe and secure? This desire is very strong especially for parents of young children. There are a few habits that parents should develop and practice regularly in order to make their kids feel secure
Love is a very powerful and solid emotion
It can drive a person to do extraordinary feats yet it can be so tender and comforting. True love, expressed between individuals in a permissible relationship, leads to many beneficial consequences.
1 John 4:18: “In love, there is no room for fear, but perfect love drives out fear”
If husbands and wives love their children, as well as one another, with perfect love, that home would be the most secure home for a young kid to grow in. Perfect love is described in 1 Corinthians 13:4 – 7. Love is the best gift you can give your child.
Arguments and fights between couples are bound to happen, it’s pretty natural but if allowed to escalate uncontrollably, it becomes a serious matter, with disastrous consequence for the kids. Just notice your kids when there is a fight at home. They are scared, quiet, unable to express their feelings and just want the whole thing to end. If fights are too often, then your child would rather not want to be at home. If you don’t want that to happen, the most important action that you should do as a parent is to try to love one another, perfectly.
Let’s look at another aspect
Do you tuck your kid to bed at night? If no, then start doing it from today onwards. The impact that this simple yet powerful action has on your kid is immeasurable. It will go a long way in making your kid a confident and highly self-esteemed adult. As parents, many of us don’t realize the long-term benefits of this action. Walk over to their bedside, pull the bed sheet over them, sit on their bed for a few minutes and have a heart to heart conversation with them – just a few minutes.
If your kids are very young, read a story to them from their favorite storybook or use your imagination and makeup one. Watch their excitement and happiness when you finish and say goodnight to them. They feel so loved when you choose to break away from your never-ending chores, overcome your tiredness and spend those precious moments with them. You have boosted their sense of security by showing that you are there for them, even when you are busy.
A Hug, Smile, and a Kiss
These are the most potent weapons in the world, to reach out to the heart of anyone. Yet, it is freely available for you to use on your kids. Relationship experts, psychologists, therapists and doctors all over the world backed by multi-million dollar research programs have proved the positive effects of these 3 actions. Touch, especially between parents and young kids, make a child feel secure and loved. Touch them often.
Finally, the most important secret
Teach your children that security comes from God alone, not from wealth, honor, health or power.
Psalm 127: 1 – “If Yahweh does not build a house, in vain do its builders toil. If Yahweh does not guard a city, in vain do its guards keep watch. In vain you get up earlier and put off going to bed, sweating to make a living, since it is He who provides for His beloved as they sleep”
The Gospel of Luke 12: 16 – 32 explains in a beautiful way how to be secure in our life. Teach this secret to your kids.
Every parent wants their children to feel safe and secure. Material things and earthly possessions can buy a limited security or just create a deceptive illusion of security. You can have a million dollars in your bank account but your child could get struck with cancer? Did that money secure your child’s health? On the contrary, simple actions of love towards your kids combined with the realization that the ultimate security is in the Lord can definitely prepare your kids to face the ups and downs in life.
What gives you security? Is it your finances or job or good health or the security system in your house? Or is it something else?
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Blyton and Sonia